Awareness begins with the willingness to uncover the truth about past experiences we\u2019ve been stubbornly afraid to look at and admit to.\u00a0Until we are willing to take responsibility for all that we\u2019ve been afraid to see, we live in denial, avoid telling the truth and pretend it doesn\u2019t exist.\u00a0We see in others what we are unwilling to see about ourselves causing issues to be stuck in the deepest recesses of our minds and bodies.<\/p>\n
When we\u00a0judge, compare, comment, speculate, like, dislike and blame,\u00a0\u00a0and none of it is relevant to what is going on in the moment, our subconscious voice drains our energy because it doesn\u2019t stop.<\/p>\n
We\u00a0\u00a0can change it whenever we are\u00a0willing!\u00a0\u00a0Without willingness we fall back on old patterns.<\/p>\n
I use the analogy \u201cA table is just a table.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0It\u2019s not good or bad, right\u00a0\u00a0or wrong, pretty or ugly, or positive or negative. It\u2019s just a\u00a0\u00a0table.\u00a0\u00a0And, I apply this principle to my thoughts, feelings, emotions, opinions, everything.<\/p>\n
Each moment in order to remain present,\u00a0\u00a0I tell myself,\u00a0\u00a0\u201cthis is What\u2019s So and it\u2019s the truth, It\u2019s Okay to let go and let Be and I will forgive so I can get to the So What of it\u00a0all, my gratitude. my humor and the experience of my own magnificence,<\/p>\n
When we are uncomfortable emotionally, we resist the way things are. This resistance comes from our attachments to old beliefs and feelings, to people and circumstances. \u00a0This kind of rigid attachment is how we become addicted.\u00a0\u00a0So rather than resist, it\u00a0 works so much better\u00a0 when we surrender and forgive.\u00a0Our conscious minds, where we live in the moment,\u00a0 are not the same as our subconscious minds which creates our judgmental reality.<\/p>\n
When we are willing to detach from old beliefs and accept circumstances as they are, it\u2019s easier to make things okay.<\/p>\n
A long time ago, I created an exercise that made it easier to segregate the voice in my head.\u00a0\u00a0I used my hand as a puppet to pull the thoughts out of my mind to separate my identity with them.\u00a0\u00a0I actually had a conversation with my hand. This forced me to de-emphasize my judgments.<\/p>\n
I now use a meditation that has helped me immeasurably.<\/p>\n
After you read this, you can do it as a closed eyes meditation. I found it to be very powerful.<\/p>\n
Take a moment \u00a0and relax. Take a deep breath and imagine yourself\u00a0\u00a0being willing to let go of your attachment to your old beliefs.<\/p>\n
Be willing to become the observer\u00a0\u00a0of your thoughts. Pay attention to their patterns\u00a0\u00a0so you separate your critical thinking from your creative thinking.<\/p>\n
That voice in your head represents the child in you whose development was arrested every time you faced a crisis or trauma and\u00a0emotionally\u00a0remained that particular age. As you were growing up,\u00a0\u00a0your inner child was not. This is why, in so many instances, our behavior is childish and inappropriate in the moment.<\/p>\n
Be willing now to transform this experience.<\/p>\n
Be willing to\u00a0separate\u00a0yourself from your inner child. You are no longer that child. You are the grown up. Your inner child is not.<\/p>\n
Now remove your child from inside of you and give them a huge hug. Put them on your lap and tell them how much you love them and how magnificent they are and how you will take care of them from now on. Let them know they are free to Be.<\/p>\n
Now\u00a0 be willing to imagine you are this magnificent Being with no agenda. Keep doing this until you feel a release.<\/p>\n
Know that you will continue to practice this technique until you are secure in this new state of mindful awareness, adult consciousness, and above all,\u00a0 willingness.<\/p>\n
Some of the things I learned during my process of letting go to reach my Self Realization experience are:<\/p>\n
When I\u2019m coaching other people I find it impossible to work with them until they\u2019re willing to tell the truth. No healing happens with unwillingness. When we\u2019re willing to allow our issues to surface as information about ourselves without judging or finding fault, dealing with this information is both eye opening and life changing.<\/p>\n
None of this would be possible without willingness.<\/p>\n
Questions to ponder:<\/p>\n
How willing are you to:<\/p>\n
* see what you are stubborn and inflexible\u00a0about?<\/p>\n
* examine the issues you\u2019ve been unwilling to expose?<\/p>\n
* share what you\u2019ve been ashamed or embarrassed\u00a0about?<\/p>\n
* look at what you\u2019re still feeling guilty about?<\/p>\n
* admit and take responsibility for what you\u2019ve been blaming others for?<\/p>\n
* reveal what and who you are still judging and critical of?<\/p>\n
* authentically receive and give acknowledgement?<\/p>\n
* be diligent \u00a0in always being truthful \u00a0about your issues?<\/p>\n
* forever experience your own magnificence no matter what?<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a paradox! When I\u2019m willing to face my fears and surrender to my own painful feelings without replacing or changing them, I can choose to release them at any time by being consciously present in the moment.<\/p>\n
When I\u2019m willing to choose love over fearful thoughts, I\u2019m willing to allow, accept and create a new way to think and feel and a new language that reflects\u00a0\u00a0my transformation. It takes all my willingness, intention and commitment to stay focused on my own magnificent Being, staying present in the moment as I remain diligent in my efforts.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m willing to hear other people\u2019s points of view and accept their perceptions\u00a0\u00a0which I\u2019m willing to see as valid as my own.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m willing to let go of my pride and apologize when it\u2019s\u00a0\u00a0appropriate. Apology and forgiveness go hand in hand. I\u2019m willing to be\u00a0courageous\u00a0and be accountable for my own actions.<\/p>\n
I always have to be willing to look inward where my true knowledge lies, then I\u2019m free to remember that my experience of my own magnificence is that I love myself unconditionally.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m willing to do everything I know to calm my mind, see the humor in my humanity and diligently remain in a state of grace.<\/p>\n
Every time I stop to realize the scope of the work I\u2019ve done in my own transformational process I see how\u00a0\u00a0my entire family system has been affected and empowered. And it all began with my willingness to break through my fears and transform the quality of my life.<\/p>\n
As I was willing to face my discomfort and\u00a0was disgusted\u00a0enough with my pretense I made \u201cOkayness\u201d a preference,\u00a0\u00a0I just plain\u00a0 stopped resisting. When we see ourselves as okay, we can choose to accept our own magnificence as well as that of others. As we change our perception, we view life differently. We accept our circumstances and other people\u2019s points of view, rather than trying to change or fix them.<\/p>\n
As my conscious mind is aware, and I\u2019m willing to surrender and master forgiveness, I am in balance and living my highest purpose. I accept all the different parts of my Self and everyone else. I give my Self the gift of freedom, peace and understanding. I practice Being my magnificent Self every day. I live in the moment and am grateful and \u00a0joyful.<\/p>\n
Being willing is how I live a magical life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Without willingness, it would be most difficult\u00a0 to achieve Self Realization. Awareness begins with the willingness to uncover the truth about past experiences we\u2019ve been stubbornly afraid to look at and admit to.\u00a0Until we are willing to take responsibility for … Continue reading