“What’s So, It’s Okay & So What” is a process I use to keep me balanced, centered and grounded in living each moment as it occurs.
Part 1 “What’s So”
“What’s So” is what the truth is about ourselves. We were born to be worthy and deserving of loving our Selves unconditionally, being magnificent without judgement, without embellishment, criticism, blame, guilt or anything else attached. What is the true nature of our thoughts? What’s actually happening right now? What do we honestly need right now? What are we feeling right now without uncharacteristic behavior or inappropriate reactions? What is our true desire?
I love to use this example: The concept of “What’s So” is: “a table is just a table”. What makes it a table is the energy it’s made up of, a bunch of little atoms, all put together to create what we know to be a table because of the Universal Law of Agreement, which applies to everything in the physical universe and beyond.
There are no judgements in Universal Law, so anything else about the table except that it IS a table is not the truth. According to these laws, judgements are things we make up based on past programming to keep us from experiencing the truth of what’s so. And this example is true for everything including thought, because thought is made up of this same Universal energy.
It works the same way with feelings and emotions. Using anger as an example, anger is just anger. Yet we place so much emphasis on it. “Anger is bad, but then again, anger could be used for good.” “We’re right to be angry.” “No, anger is wrong.” “Anger is so negative,” or, “there IS a positive side to anger.” All these judgements are imagined, according to how we personally view the experience of anger. The truth is, anger is just anger. Mostly, we use it for protection. When we surrender and accept it as just energy that exists, the charge is removed and the anger itself begins to dissipate. And it’s what’s so for all reactive emotions. We don’t have to hide, avoid or deny them, We can embrace, accept and make them okay. It really doesn’t matter what we like or dislike or if we approve or disapprove. What’s so is always going to be what’s so.
Also, human beings are very resistant. We remain stuck in the very thing we’re resisting. “What we resist, persists” is a Universal Law. Resistance keeps us from the truth of what’s so.
It takes practice every moment of every day to be open to all possibilities. I consciously observe my thoughts, old ideas and behavior. I look at people and situations as they are, not as I think they are or would like them to be. When I see my inner child trying to get my attention, instead of allowing her to blame others, I love and accept her and let her know we’re both okay, so I can be more open to choose appropriate behavior in each moment. No one can make me feel what I feel or think what I think. People say or do what they say or do and depending on my own attachment to my programming is how I am affected. I can choose to react or not. It takes a lot of practice to let go of programmed judgements and resistance. The more we practice the experience of “What’s So,” the more we lose our attachments, choose freely and live in truth.
Practicing letting go of resistance requires being open to new and different points of view. Just because we think it, it doesn’t make it the truth. Changing our point of view encourages our freedom of choice and opens the pathway to living a magical life.
Part 2 “It’s Okay
“It’s Okay” has to do with unconditional love and surrender, allowing and accepting “what’s so” without judgements or resistance.
Being human, our programmed conditioning keeps us holding onto old ways of thinking in the recesses of our subconscious minds. This limits our knowledge and intelligence.
When we are willing to face our fears and surrender to our painful feelings without replacing or changing them, we can choose to release them at any time by being present in the moment. Our inherent nature is to choose love over fearful thoughts, and when we do, we allow, accept and create a new way to think and feel and a new language that reflects our transformation. It takes intention, willingness and commitment to stay focused on our own magnificence, in the present and to remain diligent in our efforts.
When we allow and accept all things to be, and let go of wanting to fix them or make them different, a weight is lifted. When we clearly communicate our intention and desire to those around us, we create an environment that supports us in Being in the moment and this transforms into a state of “Okay-ness”.
When everything is okay, we’re aligned with “what’s so” in the Universal flow of life.
Resistance disappears with surrender and acceptance and what we truly desire in our hearts has more value than what our minds make up about what we want.
The Universal Law of allowing or the path of least resistance speaks to the intention of our desires which comes from the heart of our Being, where we know we’re magnificent, worthy and deserving of a love so pure and deep that our action is to choose it every minute of every day so we can be present each moment.
This is so opposite to what most of us were taught. I grew up thinking love was something I had to work for and when I wanted something, I had to do something to deserve it. I often failed because of my unproductive thinking and inappropriate emotions. I didn’t feel okay with myself so what I was doing was not okay. I didn’t know how to Be here now…
When we love ourselves because we choose to, without reasons, we are consciously aware of our true desires. It’s an opportunity to pay attention to what comes from our hearts in the present and not our minds from the past. The creative process takes effect. The action is the process itself of Being here now as we practice our new skills over and over again.
Acceptance is a gift we give ourselves when we wish to be free. Trusting our Selves and the transformational process is another gift.
I find I am most okay when I stop, close my eyes and breathe a couple of deep breaths. I visualize my Self as a magnificent shining light, filled with love, radiating throughout my body and outward to everyone around me. When I’m present in the moment and here right now, is when I truly know I’m okay.
Part 3 “So What”
“So What” is about surrender, forgiveness, gratitude and living in a state of grace.
When we surrender, we let go of our suffering and unhealthy attachments to people, things and situations. When we surrender, we allow everything to be just the way it is. When we let go of our attachments, our thoughts, emotions and reactions become a big “So What”!
When we choose love over fear, the value of our true state of Being is revealed to us. When we surrender and let go of our fear, we give our inner child an opportunity to be free, nurtured and loved.
When we are pure of heart, consciousness is eternal. And, it has nothing to do with the human condition. When we are in this state of Being, we experience choice and free will.
When we choose love over fear, we tap into this powerful energy and consciously create a new way of thinking that’s aligned with our experience of love and absence of fear. When we live in this place it’s unthinkable to choose destructive thoughts and inappropriate reactions. It’s in this state that we see the humor of the human condition and it all becomes a big “So What”.
When we choose love, we experience the universal vibration of peace, joy and harmony. These are the genuine emotions we experience from our hearts not our minds. It is here we find our true desires and intentions and our gratitude.
When we choose love, we surrender to the law of forgiveness. Since forgiveness is ongoing, it requires practice each moment we forget we’re loved. And when we’re committed to forgiving, our relationships are magical.
For me it requires staying present, living in the moment and placing real value on loving myself, knowing I have the power to choose love first. I don’t have to reach for it. It’s here inside me waiting to be revealed. When I lift the veil, every gift of love comes to me because I believe I deserve it. My true desire is to love, be grateful and be in service of others.
When we experience loving our Selves without ego, it’s easy to see the “so what” of things. “So What” allows us to surrender and forgive and not get caught up in the human condition. Ordinary circumstances become extraordinary situations when viewed with a deep sense of love, gratitude and a spirited sense of humor. It’s here we experience balance and a state of grace.
“What’s so”, “it’s okay” & “so what”, the truth, acceptance, surrender, and gratitude is my way of living an unconditional life, complete with love, forgiveness and freedom.
My commitment is to hold on to nothing except love, joy, gratitude and all that which truly comes from my heart. I accept transformation as a beautiful way of living by changing my old patterns of thinking and languaging. I’m willing to do everything I know to calm my mind, see the humor in every human condition and remain in this state of grace.
