Without willingness, it would be most difficult to achieve Self Realization.
Awareness begins with the willingness to uncover the truth about past experiences we’ve been stubbornly afraid to look at and admit to. Until we are willing to take responsibility for all that we’ve been afraid to see, we live in denial, avoid telling the truth and pretend it doesn’t exist. We see in others what we are unwilling to see about ourselves causing issues to be stuck in the deepest recesses of our minds and bodies.
When we judge, compare, comment, speculate, like, dislike and blame, and none of it is relevant to what is going on in the moment, our subconscious voice drains our energy because it doesn’t stop.
We can change it whenever we are willing! Without willingness we fall back on old patterns.
I use the analogy “A table is just a table.” It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, pretty or ugly, or positive or negative. It’s just a table. And, I apply this principle to my thoughts, feelings, emotions, opinions, everything.
Each moment in order to remain present, I tell myself, “this is What’s So and it’s the truth, It’s Okay to let go and let Be and I will forgive so I can get to the So What of it all, my gratitude. my humor and the experience of my own magnificence,
When we are uncomfortable emotionally, we resist the way things are. This resistance comes from our attachments to old beliefs and feelings, to people and circumstances. This kind of rigid attachment is how we become addicted. So rather than resist, it works so much better when we surrender and forgive. Our conscious minds, where we live in the moment, are not the same as our subconscious minds which creates our judgmental reality.
When we are willing to detach from old beliefs and accept circumstances as they are, it’s easier to make things okay.
A long time ago, I created an exercise that made it easier to segregate the voice in my head. I used my hand as a puppet to pull the thoughts out of my mind to separate my identity with them. I actually had a conversation with my hand. This forced me to de-emphasize my judgments.
I now use a meditation that has helped me immeasurably.
After you read this, you can do it as a closed eyes meditation. I found it to be very powerful.
Take a moment and relax. Take a deep breath and imagine yourself being willing to let go of your attachment to your old beliefs.
Be willing to become the observer of your thoughts. Pay attention to their patterns so you separate your critical thinking from your creative thinking.
That voice in your head represents the child in you whose development was arrested every time you faced a crisis or trauma and emotionally remained that particular age. As you were growing up, your inner child was not. This is why, in so many instances, our behavior is childish and inappropriate in the moment.
Be willing now to transform this experience.
Be willing to separate yourself from your inner child. You are no longer that child. You are the grown up. Your inner child is not.
Now remove your child from inside of you and give them a huge hug. Put them on your lap and tell them how much you love them and how magnificent they are and how you will take care of them from now on. Let them know they are free to Be.
Now be willing to imagine you are this magnificent Being with no agenda. Keep doing this until you feel a release.
Know that you will continue to practice this technique until you are secure in this new state of mindful awareness, adult consciousness, and above all, willingness.
Some of the things I learned during my process of letting go to reach my Self Realization experience are:
- The willingness to face my own unwillingness. I held on to things for dear life. Every time I refused to surrender to my own unwillingness, all doors closed to my learning new information about myself.
When I’m coaching other people I find it impossible to work with them until they’re willing to tell the truth. No healing happens with unwillingness. When we’re willing to allow our issues to surface as information about ourselves without judging or finding fault, dealing with this information is both eye opening and life changing.
- Relinquishing shame, humiliation and suffering which comes from resistance to recognizing my issues and accepting the way things are. Until I was willing to choose to let go of my attachment to my pain I wallowed in my suffering.
- I had to be willing to give up my fear of change. When I was willing to change my unconscious beliefs I began the process of changing my life.
- It was imperative that I give up my attachment to my own ignorant thinking . I stubbornly held onto old ideas and believed that just because I assumed or thought something, it was the truth. That alone killed my imagination and my spirit until I was willing to be truthful with myself and transform my attachments to old programmed beliefs.
None of this would be possible without willingness.
Questions to ponder:
How willing are you to:
* see what you are stubborn and inflexible about?
* examine the issues you’ve been unwilling to expose?
* share what you’ve been ashamed or embarrassed about?
* look at what you’re still feeling guilty about?
* admit and take responsibility for what you’ve been blaming others for?
* reveal what and who you are still judging and critical of?
* authentically receive and give acknowledgement?
* be diligent in always being truthful about your issues?
* forever experience your own magnificence no matter what?
It’s a paradox! When I’m willing to face my fears and surrender to my own painful feelings without replacing or changing them, I can choose to release them at any time by being consciously present in the moment.
When I’m willing to choose love over fearful thoughts, I’m willing to allow, accept and create a new way to think and feel and a new language that reflects my transformation. It takes all my willingness, intention and commitment to stay focused on my own magnificent Being, staying present in the moment as I remain diligent in my efforts.
I’m willing to hear other people’s points of view and accept their perceptions which I’m willing to see as valid as my own.
I’m willing to let go of my pride and apologize when it’s appropriate. Apology and forgiveness go hand in hand. I’m willing to be courageous and be accountable for my own actions.
I always have to be willing to look inward where my true knowledge lies, then I’m free to remember that my experience of my own magnificence is that I love myself unconditionally.
I’m willing to do everything I know to calm my mind, see the humor in my humanity and diligently remain in a state of grace.
Every time I stop to realize the scope of the work I’ve done in my own transformational process I see how my entire family system has been affected and empowered. And it all began with my willingness to break through my fears and transform the quality of my life.
As I was willing to face my discomfort and was disgusted enough with my pretense I made “Okayness” a preference, I just plain stopped resisting. When we see ourselves as okay, we can choose to accept our own magnificence as well as that of others. As we change our perception, we view life differently. We accept our circumstances and other people’s points of view, rather than trying to change or fix them.
As my conscious mind is aware, and I’m willing to surrender and master forgiveness, I am in balance and living my highest purpose. I accept all the different parts of my Self and everyone else. I give my Self the gift of freedom, peace and understanding. I practice Being my magnificent Self every day. I live in the moment and am grateful and joyful.
Being willing is how I live a magical life.
